So, I've been dating someone new (who yes I met online) and he and I are moving rather quickly. He has a troubled past, but he's learned from his mistakes and I think that's the most important thing. So, anyway we had the talk about how many people we've had sex with.

I lost my virginity at eighteen and have had sex with seven people. I consider that a rather above average number, and I think that even for a girl maybe a bit high. When I asked what his was he said thirty seven. He was raped when he was younger and it's said that you go one of two ways after something like that you either become really promiscuous or you choose abstinence. He chose promiscuity. At first I thought "Well I'm just another notch on his belt". I'm not gonna lie I was upset. I thought we had a special connection and I felt like we didn't

So, I told him that I needed time to process it. Now, by this time I already know that he has a son who's two and a half years old. I've not met him, but I hear he's a great kid. Yesterday I decided that he and I would be okay. I just always needed protection and we're both going to get tested.

Granted, we have had sex! He told me after we had sex what his number was. So, I have two questions. One, should I be upset with all the girls he's slept with? Two, should I be upset he told me the number after we had sex?

Why is "let's talk about sex" such an awkward statement for some people? I'll admit I was one of those people while I was a virgin, but now that I'm not... I seem more open to it. I'm more than willing to answer any questions anybody asks me about sex. I'm not necessarily ashamed of my sex life. Sometimes I do wonder if I rush into sex... but the truth is: The meaning sex has to some people doesn't really apply to me. Don't get me wrong, my first time with someone (I've had sex with 4 people) is very passionate and meaningful, but after that sex is sex. Sex is pleasure.

Why am I asking this? Well, it's quite simple. About a year ago I was dating someone and once we started having sex everything changed (no surprise there). He decided one day that it would be fun to try it without a condom and me, being the dumb ass that I am, thought that I would be fine. And of course... I had a pregnancy scare. Before even taking the test I went to the pharmacy and got the "day after pill". But let me tell you, it scared the hell out of me.

During this time, I had to tell my parents I was having sex. My dad took it well (to my surprise), but my mom freaked the hell out. She didn't talk to me for a month and when she did start talking to me she wouldn't look me in the eye. Why can't sex be something that I can talk to anyone about? Sex is something that you shouldn't feel afraid to hide, but in my family that's exactly what I am: afraid. I'm afraid that my mom will quit talking to me completely or my brother won't look up to me.

A lot of people I know grew up with parents that said "Let's talk about sex..." and then they got the 'sex talk'. Not me. Everything I know about sex I had to find out from my friends, books, the internet, and sex itself (one of those learn as you go things).

So if you're someone who's afraid to talk about sex just in general. Why? Do you want to keep that information private? What's the deal? Clue me in.

I should start off by mentioning that I have been dating this guy for about week, and I met him on facebook. Yes, I met him on the internet. We had talked quite a few times before we decided that we wanted to meet. So last friday I had him and a few of my friends from work come over and we watched a movie. My other friends left and it was just him and I, but we didn't do much talking, it was that awkward first time meet thing. We did no cuddling or kissing; all we did that night was hug.

When the next date rolled around (the following Monday) I didn't really know what to think or what to expect. I drove about an hour to go to this guys house (he lives with his grandparents). So, when I got there I was really nervous. We went into his basement and watched a movie and he kissed me. After a while that kissing turned into sex. Keep in mind it's only our 2nd date, it's only the 2nd time I've met this guy... does that make me a slut? Did I have sex with him too soon?